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Wear a topper for your wedding

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On May 6, 2023, after an 18-year relationship with my now husband, I finally got married. It took him a while to propose! I was obviously looking forward to this wedding! But I was also very apprehensive because I've been suffering from androgenetic alopecia since the age of 20. So I had to find a solution to look my best on the big day 😉

As you probably know, topper was obviously my solution, but it wasn't without a few doubts and misgivings. I tell you all about it in this article!

My apprehensions

I was diagnosed with androgenetic alopecia when I was 20. At the time, it wasn't that noticeable. But 10 years later, my scalp really started to thin out and my alopecia became visible. I often thought about my future wedding with apprehension. How was I going to feel beautiful on that day? Would I be able to achieve a decent hairstyle? All this made me very anxious and sad.

To be honest, sometimes I even resented my partner for not proposing sooner because of this. I told myself that the longer he waited, the more disastrous and pitiful the result would be.

But around 30 was also the age when I wore my first hair topper . Discovering this solution was a real relief for me in my daily life. But it also took away those apprehensions about my future marriage! I now knew that I'd be able to feel good on that day, despite my alopecia, which was progressing year by year.

This is the state of my alopecia a few weeks before my wedding:

My alopecia, before my wedding in May 2023

It may not seem catastrophic here. But my alopecia is so extensive that it would have been really complicated to have a nice hairstyle. I would have had to apply a lot of densifying powder. And the chignon would inevitably have had very little volume, which I think would have ruined the look on the wedding day.

A hair topper , yes, but with which hairstyle?

I was finally relieved to know that I'd have hair worthy of the name for the big day. But being a regular user of hair topper , I also know that the product can sometimes move around a bit during the day. My hairline is very bald. So the slightest shift of a few millimeters can quickly become visible (at least to me). On a day-to-day basis, I know I have the reflex to check from time to time that everything is in place. But I knew I wouldn't necessarily have the opportunity to do so on the big day. I was also worried that the bun wouldn't last and that I'd turn into a pumpkin with a toupee after midnight!

So my first thought was to opt for a romantic hairstyle with my hair loose. Because I thought that the pressure at the back would be less than with a voluminous chignon, and that a simpler structure at the outset might be less difficult to hold over time.

But during the fittings, the hairdresser also gave me a try with a chignon. And it was a revelation! Surprisingly, I felt that my hair was much more secure, and that it didn't pull back at all, as I'd expected!

Take a look at the two hairstyles I tested on video (French version, English version also online on the channel):

I hesitated for a long time, however, because I didn't know in advance what it would look like on such a hectic day as a wedding. But deep down, I knew I wanted a bun to go with my Disney princess dress! So I decided to make my choice not based on my alopecia, topper and the stress associated with it, but rather on what I really wanted deep down.

So I took a chance and opted for the chignon for the wedding!

In concrete terms, how did things go on D-day?

On the big day, the hairdresser had placed around fifty pins in my bun to secure it! The topper didn't move a millimeter, from 9am to 5am. I didn't even really feel the need to check it several times during the day, as I could feel that it wasn't moving. I had put a little densifying powder on the front edge just in case, to secure myself in the event of a slight recoil of the topper.

I was so afraid that the topper would move, that I wouldn't feel it and then realize that it was visible in the photos (and therefore potentially visible to everyone at the wedding).

But during the day, then the evening, I could feel that it was perfectly in place! Because you can feel a topper backing up. I was able to move around, dance to my heart's content, carry my children. In short, I had complete freedom of movement.

I received over 1000 wedding photos. I don't know how many of them are of me, but I can say that my topper is not visible in ANY of them! And that was a real relief for me. I wasn't afraid that people would realize at the wedding that I was wearing a topper. Everyone knows I'm wearing it because I don't hide it. But I didn't want my wedding photos to be spoiled by a badly positioned toupee!

So today I'm really happy to be able to assure you that yes, you can look perfect on your big day with a topper!

My advice is to choose a hairdresser who specializes in weddings and is gifted in her field. She'll know how to work with hair topper , even if it's her first time using this type of product. Don't hesitate to have the roots touched up if the color is a little lighter than yours. This will help bring out the color, and the result will still be very natural (this is what I did with my topper Anaïs, which is initially much lighter than my hair).

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2 thoughts on "Wearing a topper for your wedding"

  1. Dainotti

    I'm undergoing chemo and I'm losing my hair, it's thinning.
    I was told about topper but then I was also told that as they will be more fragile the clips won't hold so what can I do?
    There's also a risk that the clips will damage the remaining hair and cause it to fall out.
    What do you recommend?
    Or a wig, but I've got hair but it's massively bent.
    I also have curly hair

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    1. aureline

      Good morning, madam,
      Women with alopecia have fine hair, and toppers is designed precisely for fragile, fine hair.
      What's more, to hold the topper in place, rather than using clips, you can use sensitive grips.
      Here are two links that explain all about this new process: https: //www.youtube.com/watch?v=uu1TXN8Zwc0
      https://commeundiademe.com/2023/08/nouveaux-sensitive-grip-topper/

      For even more precise and personalized advice, you can contact us at contact@commeundiademe.com or by WhatsApp on + 33 6 95 28 78 85.
      Have a nice day!

      Reply

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At Comme un diadème, you will receive personal support. You can send any questions you may have to contact@commeundiademe.com via the contact form. In addition, you can send photos of your hair (or alopecia) via the support form so that we can advise you on the colour, Cap size or length of the hair topper/wig.

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We use natural Brazilian "Remy" hair. The term "Remy" means that the hair and the cuticles of the strand are oriented in the same direction on the hair topper. This is in contrast to non-Rémy hair, which is assembled loosely. They are therefore more prone to tangling and damage.

You should choose the Cap size of the topper according to the extent of your alopecia and the density of hair you wish to acquire. It is preferable that the clips are not attached in the area of alopecia where the scalp can be quite sensitive. In addition, extensive alopecia will require the addition of a high density of hair to compensate for the initial low density.

For extensive alopecia, we recommend 18 × 18 cm or 20×20 cm bases. These bases will provide real coverage, density and comfort of use. Larger base sizes are available for very large alopecia.

The smaller bases (15×15 cm) will give a little less density to the hair. But they will allow you to tie your hair in a high ponytail more easily.

To determine your wig size, please refer to the table below.

wig size chart

We offer hair toppers with a density between 120 and 130%. This density is considered standard by international retailers.

The hair is straight. Except where it is stated in the product title and description that the model is naturally wavy or curly.

The life span of a topper will partly depend on how well it is cared for. The typical life span is between one and two years. To increase the life of your topper, you should not wash it too frequently.

The topper should be brushed out carefully after wearing. It is convenient to place it on a wig head. This way, the hair does not get a bad fold before the next use.

Hair should not be washed too frequently. Every 4 weeks or more is a good rhythm. Clips should be closed before washing the hair and the hair should be detangled before and after washing. You can use a mild shampoo for coloured hair followed by a conditioner. Orchid oil shampoo and Brazilian keratin conditioner have proven to be very effective!

Every 4 shampoos you can apply Silicon Mix, available on Amazon. This will restore your hair to its original shine.

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In case of dry hair ends, we recommend adding a little argan oil to moisturize the fiber hair.

Natural hair can be heated, straightened and curled without any problem. However, as with your own hair, you should not overdo it to avoid damaging the fiber hair.

The cork wig head and its display stand are essential for easy drying and styling of the hair topper's hair. https://amzn.to/2tg50cJ The T-pin will allow you to attach the hair topper to the cork wig head before blow drying or curling the hair. https://amzn.to/2uW5W6q
Hair hair topper has usually undergone complex bleaching and colouring processes before achieving its final colour. This hair has therefore been sensitised. It may react in an unexpected way to a colouring or bleaching process. It is usually possible to darken a hair topper. However, it is not recommended to bleach it as this may alter the hair. Therefore, when in doubt between two shades as to which hair colour to choose, it is best to choose the lighter shade of hair. In any case, it is important to have the hair topper coloured or bleached by a professional colourist who is used to working with this type of hair. Hair toppers Comme un diadème are sold uncut. Therefore, at first try, the hair topper may not seem to fit your face and/or hairstyle. However, a rough piece needs to be made to fit you completely. We therefore recommend that, if the basic colour, length and size are suitable for you, you have the hair topper cut by a hairdresser so that it can blend in completely naturally with your own hair.

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Choosing a hair topper or a wig from a distance is not always easy. However, with Comme un diadème, you have the possibility to be accompanied in your approach and to benefit from a personalized accompaniment.

Indeed, if you would like advice on the colour, the Cap size, the length of your hair complement or even more general advice on the type of product most appropriate for your alopecia, you can send us below 3 photos of your hair/alopecia in daylight and we will advise you.

Click or drag files to this area to upload them. You can upload up to 3 files.

It is also possible to send a lock of your hair for direct comparison with the various Comme un diadème references, by mail, to the following address:
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A reply will be sent within 5 working days.

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At Comme un diadème, custom orders of out-of-stock products are possible.

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