Wearing a hair topper is generally not an easy step to take, and revealing to everyone that you are now wearing a hairpiece is not mandatory.
When you finally decide to take the plunge, you often feel very anxious about the idea that people will realize you are wearing a hair topper or a wig. I have been there too, and I know that these anxieties are legitimate. But after more than 5 years of wearing very different hair toppers daily according to my desires, I can assure you that people are not as attentive to what is happening on our heads, and that’s a good thing!
Indeed, unless you have really noticeable alopecia, people generally do not notice a simple difference in density. However, when you wear a hair topper for the first time, some observant people may notice that you have made changes to your hair. They may then ask you questions or make comments about your hair, which can be very stressful and unsettling when you fear that people will understand that you are wearing a hair topper.
Anticipating and knowing how to respond to these first remarks will allow you to get through this first day without difficulties. I give you my tips to achieve this through this article.
Tip #1: Wear your hair tied back during the transition period
In the early days, if you are really very stressed about the idea of someone detecting your hair topper or wig, I recommend wearing the hair topper with your hair tied up. This way, the change will be more discreet, and it is unlikely that people will notice the difference. If there is a slight difference in hair color, length, texture, or volume, it will always be less visible when you wear your hair tied up.
The hair topper I am wearing here (model Ana) is 8 inches longer than my own hair, and it is much lighter. Yet, the result is completely undetectable with the hair tied up!
Tip #1: Own it, stay calm, and accept compliments!
If you decide to wear it with your hair down, it is possible that some people around you may notice a change. But keep in mind that people never directly think of a hair topper (99% of the population doesn’t even know that this type of product exists!). They only see a nice change in hairstyle. And it is therefore completely natural for them to make comments about this change that they find very positive!
A common first mistake for women wearing a hair topper or wig for the first time is to seek justification. As if you had committed an offense and were ultimately suspected of hiding something serious!
Getting into justifications is, in my opinion, a mistake. Just take the compliment for what it is and say 'thank you' 😉 If there are questions, feel free to confirm what the person is saying to avoid getting into long, stressful discussions for you!
Examples of the most common remarks:
- Oh, this change is nice, did you get highlights? Yes
- Did you cut your hair, did you go to the hairdresser, it looks great? Yes, do you like it?
- Did you change your hair color? Yes, I went to the hairdresser this weekend!
- Did you straighten your hair? Yes, I had a treatment at the hairdresser
I advise against going into too many technical details so you don't find yourself in a conversation that you no longer control. Stay vague and redirect questions to the interlocutor to divert attention from your hair, if that's what you want of course 😉
If someone touches the tip of your hair because this stunning hair becomes tempting for some (it happened to me on the first day!), let them do it. You have nothing to fear with a hair topper Comme un diadème, they are all made of natural hair 😉
If you feel that the person is really suspicious, especially about the difference in density and volume (this can happen if you were really very sparse), feel free to say that you have extensions. Remember that you owe no explanations to anyone and you can also simply change the subject if it makes you too uncomfortable.
Tip #2: Keep in mind that you owe nothing to anyone and that you are free to talk about it or not
Wearing a hair prosthesis can be a matter of intimacy. Therefore, you owe no explanations to anyone about it. It's a bit like wearing a dental prosthesis; nothing obliges you to talk about it. People who wear dental or breast prostheses owe no explanation to their colleagues or acquaintances, and the same goes for you. If it's something you want to keep to yourself, you must be fully aware that it is your right and that you are in no way obliged to account for your hairstyle or any other subject that concerns only you.
You owe no explanation or justification to someone who is a bit too intrusive with these questions. You have the right to leave them in their questioning. They should move on by themselves after a while 😉
And after a few months or years of wearing the hair topper?
In the beginning, we worry a lot about the idea that our surroundings will discover that we wear this type of product. However, you will see that after a few months or years, the subject may seem much lighter to you and you may spontaneously want to talk about it with your close ones and colleagues. From their reaction, you will see that there is ultimately no judgment and often very supportive reactions. This may encourage you to discuss it naturally and confidently later. Also, know that a woman who embraces her alopecia and the solutions she uses to cope with it is rarely mocked and instead exudes a lot of self-confidence!
We become unstoppable when we have confidence in ourselves!
And we can be proud to have dared to take the leap in a society where these solutions are still quite taboo. Proud not to let ourselves be defeated, to move forward and to dare to advance.
Finally, never forget that we are not responsible for what happens to us, that we are legitimate in seeking a solution to our alopecia and that we have as much value as other women.
We have the right to want to feel beautiful and to use the wonderful solutions we have at our disposal for that!
So, be yourselves and take care!
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For informative videos on hair toppers, wigs, and more generally on alopecia:
The video "Hair Topper: dodging the first comments":
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