Wearing a topper hair is generally not an easy step to take, and revealing to everyone that you now wear a hair prosthesis is not a must.
When you finally decide to take the plunge, you often feel very anxious that people will realize you're wearing a topper or a wig. I've been there too, and I know these anxieties are legitimate. But after more than 5 years of wearing very different toppers every day, depending on my mood, I can assure you that people don't pay that much attention to what goes on our heads, and that's all to the good!
Indeed, unless you've got really noticeable alopecia, people don't usually notice a simple difference in density. However, when you wear a topper for the first time, some observant people may realize that you've made changes to your hair. They may then ask you questions, or make comments about your hair, which can be very stressful and unsettling when you're afraid that people will understand that you're wearing a topper hair .
Anticipating and knowing how to respond to these first remarks will enable you to get through this first day without difficulty. This article gives you my advice on how to do just that.
Tip 1: Wear your hair tied back for the transition period
In the early stages, if you're really stressed about people noticing your topper hair or wig, I'd advise you to wear topper with your hair tied back. This way, the change will be more discreet and people are unlikely to notice the difference. If there's a slight difference in hair color, length, texture or volume, it will always be less noticeable when you wear your hair up.
The topper hair I'm wearing here (model Ana) is 20 cm longer than my own hair, and much lighter. Yet the result is completely undetectable with my hair up!
Tip 1: Take responsibility, stay calm and accept compliments!
If you decide to wear it with your hair down, it's possible that some people around you will notice a change. But keep in mind that people never think directly of topper hair (99% of the population doesn't even know this type of product exists!). They just see a nice change in their hairstyle. And so it's only natural for them to comment on this change, which they find very positive!
A common first mistake women make when wearing a topper or wig for the first time is to try to justify themselves. As if you'd done something wrong and were finally suspected of hiding something serious!
In my opinion, it's a mistake to go into justifications. Simply take the compliment for what it is and say "thank you" 😉 If there are any questions, don't hesitate to confirm what the person says to avoid getting into long, stressful discussions!
Examples of the most frequent comments:
- Oh, that's a nice change. Did you get highlights? Yes
- You cut your hair, you went to the hairdresser, it's top? Yes, do you like it?
- Did you change your hair color? Yes, I went to the hairdresser this weekend!
- Did you straighten your hair? Yes, I had a treatment at the hairdresser's.
I'd advise you not to go into too much technical detail so as not to find yourself in a conversation you've completely lost control of. Stay evasive and direct questions back to the person you're talking to in order to divert attention from your hair, if that's what you want of course 😉
If the person touches the tips of your hair because this sublime hair becomes tempting for some (this happened to me on my first day!), let them. You have nothing to fear with a topper hair Comme un diadème, they're all natural hair 😉
If you feel that the person is really suspicious, especially about the difference in density and volume (this can happen if you were really sparse), don't hesitate to say that you've put in extensions. Remember, however, that you don't owe anyone an explanation, and you can simply change the subject if it makes you too uncomfortable.
Tip 2: Remember that you don't owe anyone anything, and that you're free to talk about it or not.
Wearing a prosthesis hair can be a private matter. So you don't owe anyone an explanation. It's a bit like wearing dentures - you don't have to talk about it. People who wear dentures or breast prostheses don't owe their colleagues or colleagues around them any explanations, and the same goes for you. If it's something you'd like to keep to yourself, you really should be aware that it's your right, and that you're under no obligation to account for your hairstyle or any other matter that concerns you alone.
So you don't owe any explanation or justification to someone who's a little too intrusive with these questions. You have the right to leave her to her questions. She should move on by herself after a while 😉
And after a few months or years of wearing topper hair ?
At first, it's very scary to think that people around you might discover that you're wearing this type of product. However, after a few months or years, you may find that the subject is much lighter and that you spontaneously want to talk about it with your family and colleagues. From their reactions, you'll see that there's no judgement at all, and on the contrary, they're often very sympathetic. This may encourage you to discuss the matter further in a natural and confident way. You should also know that a woman who takes responsibility for her alopecia and the solutions she uses to deal with it is rarely laughed at and, on the contrary, exudes a great deal of self-confidence!
We become unassailable when we have confidence in ourselves!
And we can be proud of having dared to take the plunge in a society where these solutions are still fairly taboo. Proud of not letting ourselves be discouraged, of forging ahead and daring to move forward.
Finally, never forget that we are not responsible for what happens to us, that we are legitimate in seeking a solution to our alopecia and that we are just as valuable as other women.
We have the right to want to feel beautiful and to use the wonderful solutions we have at our disposal to do so!
So be yourself and feel good!
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