topper hair for androgenetic alopecia

Should I tell him/her that he/she has alopecia? My 3 tips.

We all know at least one person in our entourage (family, friends, acquaintances, work colleagues, etc.) who suffers from alopecia, and it's often difficult to know what attitude to adopt in the face of this. Should we tell them that we think they have alopecia? Or should we keep it to ourselves? It's always tricky to find the right words, and it's a question I'm often asked, so I've decided to write this article to give you some advice on how to behave with someone suffering from this disease.

There are three different types of alopecia.

Case n°1: someone you know has noticed his or her alopecia and tells you about it spontaneously

Occasionally, someone you know will spontaneously tell you about hair loss (which you may have already noticed). In this situation, it's important to bear in mind that talking about hair loss is often painful and delicate for a woman who thinks she's affected by alopecia. If someone you know tells you they've noticed they're losing their hair and are worried about it, I'd advise you not to deny the problem.

You can tell her that you can't tell her for sure that she's suffering from hair loss, but that she's in the best position to know how dense her hair was to begin with. If she has any doubts, the best thing to do is consult a dermatologist, who may be able to reassure her and investigate the causes of her hair loss. After all, it's not our role to say whether someone has alopecia or not. Especially as hair loss can very well be temporary, linked to an iron or vitamin D deficiency, for example.

Don't forget that every sentence you say to a loved one about alopecia can mark and hurt them, so be careful in your choice of words. Indeed, they may have an impact on his self-confidence, so it's important to weigh up the consequences beforehand.

I'm talking about my hair loss, which is quite extensive now that I'm 35. But in the early stages of alopecia, it's often hardly noticeable to those around you. Only people who are observant enough will notice hair loss.

Case n°2: the person hasn't noticed his or her alopecia

Sometimes you notice alopecia in someone you know, but they don't seem to have noticed the hair loss at all. In this case, I wouldn't recommend talking to them about it. In fact, if your loved one hasn't noticed anything yet, talking to him or her about it won't do anything but worry him or her, raise questions and even create complexes he or she didn't have in the first place.

In fact, especially if you're young, it's hard to build up your self-confidence knowing that you have alopecia, which will no doubt progressively evolve over the years.

So I think it's important to let people make their own way and find out for themselves. As for me, my mother noticed my androgenetic alopecia when I was 20, at which age I was later diagnosed by a dermatologist. At that age, I hadn't noticed anything myself. But it quickly became a complex that I focused on.

Looking back today, I realize that I could have gradually realized this a few years later and saved myself 3 or 4 years of unnecessary suffering.

However, when your loved one notices that he or she may have alopecia and tells you about it, it's imperative that you refer them to a doctor to confirm or refute their suspicions.

But if one day the diagnosis is made, tell her that there are aesthetic solutions available (densifying powder, toppers capillaries) and that you'll be there to support her towards these solutions if she needs them. You can also point her in the direction of social network accounts that have opened up the subject of alopecia, and which can be a great help.

topper hair for androgenetic alopecia
toppers capillaries Comme un diadème can be a very interesting solution for women suffering from androgenetic alopecia, pelade or telogen effluvium. Here, the Dark Kate Curly model.

Case n°3: the person has noticed his alopecia but doesn't tell you about it

Sometimes, you can sense that the person is having a hard time with their alopecia, but won't broach the subject with you. If this is the case, there's no point in rushing her or encouraging her to talk to you. In fact, if your loved one hasn't decided to talk to you about it yet, it may be because he or she doesn't feel ready or doesn't feel the need to at the moment. When they feel confident enough to talk to you about it, they will do so naturally.

He may also choose not to discuss it with you, in which case you shouldn't force the issue, since alopecia is an intimate matter and no one is obliged to talk about it, even those closest to them.

Thank you for your support! Please let me know in the comments how you're coping with this situation 😉

Be yourself and be well! 🙂

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We use natural Brazilian "Remy" hair. The term "Remy" means that the hair and the cuticles of the strand are oriented in the same direction on the hair topper. This is in contrast to non-Rémy hair, which is assembled loosely. They are therefore more prone to tangling and damage.

You should choose the Cap size of the topper according to the extent of your alopecia and the density of hair you wish to acquire. It is preferable that the clips are not attached in the area of alopecia where the scalp can be quite sensitive. In addition, extensive alopecia will require the addition of a high density of hair to compensate for the initial low density.

For extensive alopecia, we recommend 18 × 18 cm or 20×20 cm bases. These bases will provide real coverage, density and comfort of use. Larger base sizes are available for very large alopecia.

The smaller bases (15×15 cm) will give a little less density to the hair. But they will allow you to tie your hair in a high ponytail more easily.

To determine your wig size, please refer to the table below.

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We offer hair toppers with a density between 120 and 130%. This density is considered standard by international retailers.

The hair is straight. Except where it is stated in the product title and description that the model is naturally wavy or curly.

The life span of a topper will partly depend on how well it is cared for. The typical life span is between one and two years. To increase the life of your topper, you should not wash it too frequently.

The topper should be brushed out carefully after wearing. It is convenient to place it on a wig head. This way, the hair does not get a bad fold before the next use.

Hair should not be washed too frequently. Every 4 weeks or more is a good rhythm. Clips should be closed before washing the hair and the hair should be detangled before and after washing. You can use a mild shampoo for coloured hair followed by a conditioner. Orchid oil shampoo and Brazilian keratin conditioner have proven to be very effective!

Every 4 shampoos you can apply Silicon Mix, available on Amazon. This will restore your hair to its original shine.

In case of dry hair ends, we recommend adding a little argan oil to moisturize the fiber hair.

Natural hair can be heated, straightened and curled without any problem. However, as with your own hair, you should not overdo it to avoid damaging the fiber hair.

The cork wig head and its display stand are essential for easy drying and styling of the hair topper's hair. The T-pin will allow you to attach the hair topper to the cork wig head before blow drying or curling the hair.
Hair hair topper has usually undergone complex bleaching and colouring processes before achieving its final colour. This hair has therefore been sensitised. It may react in an unexpected way to a colouring or bleaching process. It is usually possible to darken a hair topper. However, it is not recommended to bleach it as this may alter the hair. Therefore, when in doubt between two shades as to which hair colour to choose, it is best to choose the lighter shade of hair. In any case, it is important to have the hair topper coloured or bleached by a professional colourist who is used to working with this type of hair. Hair toppers Comme un diadème are sold uncut. Therefore, at first try, the hair topper may not seem to fit your face and/or hairstyle. However, a rough piece needs to be made to fit you completely. We therefore recommend that, if the basic colour, length and size are suitable for you, you have the hair topper cut by a hairdresser so that it can blend in completely naturally with your own hair.


Choosing a hair topper or a wig from a distance is not always easy. However, with Comme un diadème, you have the possibility to be accompanied in your approach and to benefit from a personalized accompaniment.

Indeed, if you would like advice on the colour, the Cap size, the length of your hair complement or even more general advice on the type of product most appropriate for your alopecia, you can send us below 3 photos of your hair/alopecia in daylight and we will advise you.

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